Confidence - How To Build Your Natural Self Confidence

Confidence and building your own self confidence is important in today's competitive world. However this is not about putting on a face of 'bravado' - it is about tapping into your inner sense of natural confidence that leads to such a feeling.

The problem I see with most people who are trying to build their self confidence is that they are trying to be something they are not. Quite simply, this trying to be something you're not will lead to an inner sense of anxiety and often hollowness. The reason for this is that you are not being true to yourself.

Confidence - go within your heart to find self-confidence

So how do you bridge the gap and build your sense of natural self confidence?

The first step is to realize that we all have our authentic self. This is our true self.

If you cast your mind back to when you were a young child you will start to see that you were already confident back then. You will also probably see that you were not 'trying' to be confident.

Not at all, you were just being yourself!

And this is what leads to a strong sense of self confidence. For when you are being yourself then there is no questioning or second guessing what you are doing. Instead you are just naturally doing what it is you are doing. And you are doing it in your own unique way.

Self Confidence - your authentic self is self assured

So how do you tap into your authentic and true self?

The most powerful place I know how to do this is to take time out and go alone into nature. Take the time to go to a place where you feel comfortable and without the distractions of other people being around you.

I find a minimum of 4 hours is what you really need to tap into your authentic self. This amount of time alone in nature allows you the time and space to tap into your true nature in nature.

So when you are in nature, the first step to tap into your authentic self is to let go of all tension within your body. Simply scan through your body and notice where there is any tension. Then just like letting go of a rock, allow the tension to drop to the ground.

Likewise with your mind. If you notice any tension within your mind, just allow it to drop to the ground.

Dropping tension like this allows you to enter into a state of relaxation. This state of relaxation is a critical step to tapping into your true nature and hence sense of self confidence.

After you have dropped all tension from your system, the next step is to tap into your heart. To do this, just place your attention on your heart center. This is located in the middle of your breast bone and is about the size of a golf ball.

So instead of placing your attention on the things going through your mind, instead place your attention on your heart center. Feel the feeling within your heart center, for this is where your authentic self lives. Your authentic selfis the same self that just did what it naturally did as a child.

Then as you place your attention on your heart center, start to become aware of where it is guiding you. To me it often feels like there is a little pull on my heart center. Sort of like a thin spider web pulling me in a certain direction. This is the inner guidance of your true self guiding you.

Then just allow yourself to go where this inner guide is guiding you to go. So perhaps you get drawn to go and smell a flower, or perhaps to go and hug a tree, or maybe to wash your face with some fresh water in a stream. Wherever it is you are guided to go, then just allow yourself to go there.

Then just keep on going. Allow your authentic and true self to take you on a journey through nature. If you feel drawn to a large boulder, then go there. If you feel drawn to climb a tree, then climb the tree. If you feel drawn to sit beside a lake, then sit beside a lake. Simply allow your heart to guide you through nature.

Doing this exercise in nature for a minimum of 4 hours will tap you back into your authentic self. It will tap you back into your true nature, however it is mostly symbolic. The key is to bring this way of being back into your life.

For example, if you are at a party and feeling nervous and anxious because you don't know anyone then you can tap back into this state. For example, just scan through your body for any tension and allow it to drop to the ground. Likewise with your mind - scan through your mind for any tension and allow it to drop to the ground.

Then place your attention on your heart center and allow it to guide you. Perhaps you will be guided to go and join a group of people you don't know. Or perhaps your heart will guide you to go and dance to some music. Instead of 'thinking' about it, just go with the pull of your heart. For this allows your true self to express itself in the world.

And when you both listen to and follow your heart in the world, it usually appears to other people that you have a lot of self confidence. This is not because you are 'trying' to be confident. It is more that you are just listening to your inner self and allowing it to guide you, which brings self assurance rather than self doubt.

When you allow your inner self to guide you then there is no second guessing. There is no inner questioning. In fact there is next to nothing going through your mind because you are instead coming from your heart out into the world. This is where true confidence lays because you are now being authentic to yourself.

Shaman | Confidence | Inspiration

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