Self Esteem - How To Improve And Build Your Self Esteem

Self esteem is belief in your 'self'. In order to improve and build your self esteem then it is important to firstly find your sense of self and then align your mind and thoughts with your sense of self.

Millions of people around the world today are suffering from a sense of low self esteem. This often leads to feelings of anxiety, depression and a sense of worthlessness.

However there are a number of steps you can take to improve and build your sense of self esteem.

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Your sense of self esteem is largely what happens in your mind. It is largely in the thoughts, assessments and judgements that it makes in particular about yourself. These are the inward judgements and assessments that it makes about you.

However there is a way to bypass your brain so that these judgements and assessments do not enter your awareness.

The first step is to realize that we all have a little voice in our mind that is continually talking to us.

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For example right now it may be saying something like 'Little voice? What little voice? I don't have a little voice!'

Well, that is the little voice.

If you are feeling a low sense of self esteem then that little voice in your mind is probably pretty loudly saying a lot to you right now about how crap you are or perhaps how you can't do anything right or maybe it is saying to you that you're a total loser.

Now there's nothing 'wrong' with what this little voice in your head is saying to you. That's just it's job. Much like the physical job of the heart is to beat, so too the job of the mind is to think.

However we often place a lot of attention and awareness on what the mind is saying to us. I read that when we are using our mind such as all the judgements and assessments that it makes then we are using as much energy as when we are walking. That is how much energy we place on the thoughts going through our mind.

So the first step to build your sense of self esteem is to actively turn your mind off from all the judgements and assessments it is making about you.

The way to do this is to start treating the voice within your mind like a little child that is wanting your attention. Personally I call the voice within my mind 'Ralph' because it is like a little yappy dog that goes 'Ralph, Ralph, Ralph' and often runs around in circles.

So firstly start to treat the little voice within your mind like a little child that is wanting your attention. This starts to separate you from the voice within your mind.

Then, as you start treating it like a little child simply say to it 'Thank you for sharing'.

After you say 'Thank you for sharing' you will probably notice that there is a little gap within your thoughts. That there is a little pause within your thinking. This is what the Buddhists call no-mind.

You can then instead start to place your attention and awareness on this space of no-mind within your thoughts. It's OK to not be thinking.

Within this space of no-mind you will probably start to notice that you won't be judging yourself. If a judgement about yourself does come up, then again treat the voice within your mind like a little child and just thank it for sharing and get back into a sense of no-mind.

This space of no mind not only gets rid of the self judgements that your mind is making about yourself but it also gives you the space to become aware of your true self. This is the sense of self beyond the constant stream of thoughts within your mind.

For example we all have our true self within us. Some call this our soul whereas others call it our spirit or true nature. Personally I find it easiest to tap into my true nature when immersed in nature for 3-4 days, however your sense of 'self' is found within.

I talk about it more in my book 'The Heart Walk' however you can start to explore your sense of 'self' by placing your attention and awareness on your heart center.

Your heart center resides within the middle of your chest. It is about the size of a golf ball and this is the place yogi's go to when wanting to 'center' themselves.

So instead of placing your attention and awareness on the thoughts within your mind you can instead thank it for sharing and instead place your attention and awareness on your heart center. As you practice this more and more then you will start to become aware that your sense of self and your true self resides and dwells in your heart center.

As you dwell more and more in your heart center you will sart to deepen your connection further and further with who you really are. This is what people mean when they say they 'found themselves'.

In order to improve your self esteem then it is just a matter of aligning your thoughts and what happens within your mind with your true self. For example, rather than placing your attention and awareness within what happens in your mind then you can instead actively start to rest your mind within your heart center.

For example, within our heart center there are cells that are closely related to our brain cells. So instead of having your attention and awareness on the brain cells within your head you can instead start to place your attention and awareness on the brain cells within your heart center.

Doing this starts to align your 'thinking' with your true sense of self. Instead of coming from your mind you instead start coming from your heart.

When you come from your heart then there is no judgement and assessment of yourself. Your sense of low self esteem literally drops away because judgements and assessments simply do not exist within your heart.

It's not like you are trying to build and improve your sense of self esteem. It is more like you are operating within and coming from adifferent context where your mind is in alignment with your true self.

Gaia | Self Esteem | Rite Of Passage

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