- How To Improve And Build Your Self Esteem
Self esteem is belief in your
order to improve and build your self esteem then it is important to
firstly find your sense of self and then align your mind and thoughts
with your sense of self.
Millions of people around the world today are
from a sense of low self esteem. This often leads to feelings of
anxiety, depression and a sense of worthlessness.
However there are a number of steps you can take to improve and build
your sense of self esteem.
sense of self esteem is largely what happens in your mind. It is
largely in the thoughts, assessments and judgements that it makes in
particular about yourself. These are the inward judgements and
assessments that it makes about you.
there is a way to bypass your brain so that these judgements and
assessments do not enter your awareness.
first step is to realize that we all have a little voice in our mind
that is continually talking to us.
example right now it may be saying something like 'Little voice? What
little voice? I don't have a little voice!'
that is the little voice.
you are feeling a low sense of self esteem then that little voice in
your mind is probably pretty loudly saying a lot to you right now about
how crap you are or perhaps how you can't do anything right or maybe it
is saying to you that you're a total loser.
there's nothing 'wrong' with what this little voice in your head is
saying to you. That's just it's job. Much like the physical job of the
heart is to beat, so too the job of the mind is to think.
we often place a lot of attention and awareness on what the mind is
saying to us. I read that when we are using our mind such as all the
judgements and assessments that it makes then we are using as much
energy as when we are walking. That is how much energy we place on the
thoughts going through our mind.
the first step to build your sense of self esteem is to actively turn
your mind off from all the judgements and assessments it is making
way to do this is to start treating the voice within your mind like a
little child that is wanting your attention. Personally I call the
voice within my mind 'Ralph' because it is like a little yappy dog that
goes 'Ralph, Ralph, Ralph' and often runs around in circles.
firstly start to treat the little voice within your mind like a little
child that is wanting your attention. This starts to separate you from
the voice within your mind.
as you start treating it like a little child simply say to it 'Thank
you for sharing'.
you say 'Thank you for sharing' you will probably notice that there is
a little gap within your thoughts. That there is a little pause within
your thinking. This is what the Buddhists call no-mind.
can then instead start to place your attention and awareness on this
space of no-mind within your thoughts. It's OK to not be thinking.
this space of no-mind you will probably start to notice that you won't
be judging yourself. If a judgement about yourself does come up, then
again treat the voice within your mind like a little child and just
thank it for sharing and get back into a sense of no-mind.
space of no mind not only gets rid of the self judgements that your
mind is making about yourself but it also gives you the space to become
aware of your true self. This is the sense of self beyond the constant
stream of thoughts within your mind.
example we all have our true self within us. Some call this our soul
whereas others call it our spirit or true nature. Personally I find it
easiest to tap into my true nature when immersed in nature for 3-4
days, however your sense of 'self' is found within.
talk about it more in my book 'The Heart Walk' however you can start to
explore your sense of 'self' by placing your attention and awareness on
your heart center.
heart center resides within the middle of your chest. It is about the
size of a golf ball and this is the place yogi's go to when wanting to
instead of placing your attention and awareness on the thoughts within
your mind you can instead thank it for sharing and instead place your
attention and awareness on your heart center. As you practice this more
and more then you will start to become aware that your sense of self
and your true self resides and dwells in your heart center.
you dwell more and more in your heart center you will sart to deepen
your connection further and further with who you really are. This is
what people mean when they say they 'found themselves'.
order to improve your self esteem then it is just a matter of aligning
your thoughts and what happens within your mind with your true self.
For example, rather than placing your attention and awareness within
what happens in your mind then you can instead actively start to rest
your mind within your heart center.
example, within our heart center there are cells that are closely
related to our brain cells. So instead of having your attention and
awareness on the brain cells within your head you can instead start to
place your attention and awareness on the brain cells within your heart
this starts to align your 'thinking' with your true sense of self.
Instead of coming from your mind you instead start coming from your
you come from your heart then there is no judgement and assessment of
yourself. Your sense of low self esteem literally drops away because
judgements and assessments simply do not exist within your
not like you are trying to build and improve your sense of self esteem.
It is more like you are operating within and coming from adifferent
context where your mind is in alignment with your true self.
|Like Article? Please